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15th-Mar-2013 01:17 pm
Thinky thougts
I wonder if it's deliberate that Sam doesn't haven't any male friends.

I mean, I figure he had good friends at college (we know there was Zach and Brady), but we've never seen him with a male "buddy" like we have Dean. We see Dean bonding with other males - Bobby, Gordon, Frank, Cas, Garth, Benny and even John, but Sam is seen as either butting heads with them or being downright enemies of them (Lucifer, Walt, Roy, Gordon, Kubrick, Greedy).

I know that Sam was close to Bobby but not in the same way that Dean was. Same with Garth and Cas. Both Garth and Cas attached themselves to Dean first, then got to know Sam. I figure they are as close to "friends" as Sam has in the show, but they're not just his friends.

I wonder if that's because Dean fulfils that role completely? Maybe Sam doesn't need anyone else (whereas Dean possibly does?).

I'm sure not if this is because there's never been a story line that has allowed Sam to develop a male friendship or because they have deliberately made this part of Sam's character (like his disastrous relationships with women).

It's not a complaint - just an observation.

Hmmm. *hugs* Sam. Maybe books are his other companion.

This is what happens when I enjoy a day off (yay back to 4 days a week!) and get my hair done. :)

I hope they don't use Cas to miraculously "fix" Sam this time. Surely the effects of these trials can't be fixed with a mere touch to the head (I mean, they could if they wanted them to be, but I hope they can't).

That is all. :)
16th-Mar-2013 01:51 am (UTC)
If you also notice, early in the seasons Sam bonded with the victims a lot more. Dean had trouble empathizing with them and talking to them, unlike Sam who excelled at that.

Now, it's almost as if Sam alienates himself from others. He doesn't actively try to talk to people unless he needs to. Dean interacts with a good portion of the guest stars and does most of the talking and bonding while Sam just stands behind him. I think Sam is perfectly okay with Dean fulfilling that for him. We see when John died Dean desperately tried to fill the void and latched onto Gordon way to easily because of it. With Bobby Dean was looking for that father figure, with Castiel and Garth Dean is looking for those allies/friends.

Sam on the other hand? We see his last relationship with Amelia, which was kind of painful to watch end up in the rubble. I wonder if Sam does it on purpose?
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16th-Mar-2013 02:29 am (UTC)
Funnily enough, you'd expect Dean to be that 'focus on others' mentality but Sam often focuses on everything but himself. In almost every situation where he is often emotionally unstable/hurting either just as bad or worse than Dean he's the first to offer to unburden Dean because it's much easier to help Dean than unravel himself.

Sometimes I think he feels guilty for helping himself.
16th-Mar-2013 02:44 pm (UTC)
I think Sam has definitely changed from those early seasons when we saw him comfort victims and be more empathetic. It's not surprising he's less like that now after everything he's been through.

I'm really not sure what they were trying to tell us with his relationship with Amelia (other than it be about them chosing each other). But it was sad to see that it couldn't work for Sam. TBH I think a anyone in a relationship with either Sam or Dean would be pretty disastrous. All that baggage!

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